This week for Jen’s awesome TWISTED MIX-TAPE TUESDAY the theme is
Long ago and far away, before I became a very boring married lady I was a cheater.
I guess it’s not politically correct to admit that is it?
It makes it sound like I was never quite satisfied with what I had doesn’t it?
Yet, the truth was that I believed in love so deeply and so desperately that I knew that I could love two people at once.
And I did.
I have been in love, (“torn between two lovers” so to speak although I didn’t use that song) more than once or twice in my life.
I won’t get into a big discussion about how you feel about cheating or how the world feels about it , but I will tell you that I hate that word.
I hate the things it implies; as if there is only room in someone’s life for only one person, only one person to give you everything you need.
I understand the need for it in conventional society and why we preach monogamy(which is why I decided to marry) , but when you Google “cheating songs” and are presented with pages of responses you come to realize that it happens. Often.
Wow, do we love to hear songs about it.
Angry songs, sad songs, pleading songs, redemption and retribution songs.
So, I have a mix tape of all of them right here for you.
This song reminds me of the movie “Someone Like You” with Ashley Judd and (hottie) Hugh Jackman. After she gets into a relationship with Greg Kinnear, where she believes that he was free and available she finds out that he is the ex of her female boss, who wants her man back.
For such an upbeat backbeat, this song and it’s refrain of
“did you stand by me?
No, not at all.”
says all you need to know about being hurt by the cheating.
Train in Vain (The Clash)
My angry, bitter, and whoa is this song sexy, tribute to cheating, lying and coming back for more. If you don’t turn this up and pound on your steering wheel when you have it at 10 decibels, then you’ve never really felt the passion of sex.
“Just gonna stand there and watch me burn, but that’s alright because I love the way it hurts.
Just gonna stand there and hear me cry, but that’s alright because I love the way you lie.”
Love hurts but sometimes the hurt feels so good.
Love the Way You Lie (Eminem and Rhianna)
I always give you Adele, P!nk, Duffy, Gin and even Amy Winehouse because I love those ladies. But this a new song by Australian artist ZZ Ward that is in the vain of Jolene by Dolly Parton (A favorite of mine but one I didn’t use here) and others like it about a woman asking the “other woman” not to take her man.
Hey, it’s got a great beat and you can dance to it.
take what’s mine, don’t hurt me,
Steal my money, steal my car,
Don’t take my man, don’t take my man,
I said, don’t take my man ’cause you know you can,
Put the gun down, ooh
Put the Gun Down (ZZ Ward)
My all time, favorite, I play this song at least once a week, songs.
Billy Paul had it right.
Me and Mrs, Mrs Jones, Mrs Jones, Mrs Jones
Mrs. Jones got a thing going on
We both know that it’s wrong
But it’s much too strong to let it cool down now
Sometimes you meet someone and you do everything you can to say no to that attraction, you close down parts of yourself to be “good” and yet that relationship is a force of its own.
In my own life, many moons ago, I was there looking at both people and wanting them both.
Me and Mrs. Jones (Billy Paul)
This song is guaranteed to rip your heart apart. I’ve been the “other woman”. My husband was married (but on the verge of divorce) when we met. I am the success rate of those relationships, my husband left his wife and married me. But that doesn’t always happen does it? This song, written by Jennifer Nettles from events of her own life is such a true, honest depiction of how it feels to be the other woman.
The woman who loves him too, who needs him too. Those feelings are true and real, I assure you.
Why don’t you stay
I’m down on my knees
I’m so tired of being lonely
Don’t I give you what you need
When she calls you to go
I always give you a song that reminds me of my dad don’t I? This song does and I love it.
A true throwback to the 70’s but such a great little ditty.
I’d just like to know do you love him or just making time
By filling his glass with your fast flowing bitter-sweet lime.
He’ll taste the aftertaste when you come home late some night.
With your eyes all a mist from the smoke of a distant fire.
Smoke From a Distant Fire
When you remember those nights in his arms
You know you gotta make up your mind
Are you gonna stay with the one who loves you
Or are you goin’ back to the one you love?
Someone’s gonna cry when they know they’ve lost you
Someone’s gonna thank the stars above
The thing about loving two people is that your heart is always in two places and in a perfect world you can have both lives. That line about one person crying and another person being thankful for the second chance is lyric worthy, but the truth of it is that if you love someone, you never really stop, you just put it away so the rest of the world doesn’t see it.
Plus Glenn Frey is a favorite of mine, I love The Eagles and their storytelling voices.
The One You Love (Glenn Frey)
Last, but certainly not least, is the man that got me through the 80’s with his pop songs and heart wrenching ballads but it was those solo albums before No Jacket Required that are my lifeline to love.
You see, I’d heard the rumours, I knew before you let me know
But I didn’t believe it, not you,
No you would not let me go
Seems I was wrong, but I love, I love you the same
And that’s the one thing that you can’t take away but just remember…
If leaving me is easy,
Coming back is harder…
The perfect song to end this mix tape I think…because inside cheating is always the possibility of leaving or staying or even coming back, but as he says, if leaving me was easy, you can’t expect that coming back will be.
If Leaving Me is Easy (Phil Collins)
Thank you , so much, for visiting.
I am enjoying being part of the CHORUS of this group, with special thanks to Jen for welcoming me back week after week.
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