Welcome to #AskAwayFriday, a weekly link up hosted by Penny of The Real Housewife of Caroline County and Amber of Bold Fab Mama. A meme where bloggers swap questions.
This week I have Kate of Sluiter Nation in the Corner and wow there just aren’t enough adjectives (or even nouns or verbs) to tell you how much I adore this girl. I had read her blog ever since I joined THE RED DRESS CLUB (she was one of the the *AMAZING* editors) and was introduced to her.
She is smart, funny, introspective and a great big voice about mothering, PPD and education.
Plus, I finally got to hug her at BlogHer’13, a real highlight of this past year.
In short, she’s an inspiration and I was so happy to answer these questions for her.
1. You write “chick lit.” What is your favorite genre of book to read?
I am a hopeless romantic and so when I have the privilege of reading lately I reach for the light, fluffy, stuff of girlfriends, boyfriends and love conquering all.
I love all kinds of books, with the exception of horror. While I think Stephen King is a genius the only book of his that I ever finished was THE GREEN MILE and it took a lot of evenings with all the lights on to finish it.
2. Again, you write “chick lit”. Where do you get inspiration for your characters/plot lines?
Oh yes, I’ve had enough love relationships, mishaps, love gone wrong and what-if’s in my romantic life that I use it often. Many of my stories have come out of my previous relationships, dialogue verbatim to the stuff on the page (I often laugh when someone will read me and say “that would never happen!” and “No man would ever say that to a woman” because I always counter with, “wanna bet?”)
Three of my current WIPs are real life stories with some fiction thrown in, but those moments are based in reality 99% of the time.
(what is that quote? “Behave or I’ll write about you” ? )
3. As a mom of only boys, are you the queen of the house or “one of the guys”?
You are a mom of only boys too!!! I should have asked YOU this question.
I feel like a queen most days and like a maid the rest of them.
My boys (even our dog Fenton is a boy!) are very good to me. They enjoy musicals with me and never fail to compliment me on my shoes, my dresses, my hair. I love having boys that are quick to hug and kiss me and still be rough and tumbly with each other. Because I’m not a very athletic gal so I don’t wrestle and play hockey or tackle football with them, but I do love taking them to NYC and the park.
Another quote that we use a lot in my house, “if momma ain’t happy, aint nobody happy” and while they are lousy housekeepers I do feel like I’m cherished and loved beyond measure.
4. What is your guilty pleasure BESIDES shoes and cupcakes
Oh. That would have to be TV. On Weekend mornings I have been known to wake at 4:30 as usual and spend thet time until the rest of the house wakes up watching the shows I’ve DVR’d all week. I once tweeted to USA NETWORK that I would gladly be their “pimp” since I loved every show they produced.
TV is one thing I never want to wonder about doing without.
I also love Salt & Vinegar potato chips.
5. Which personality traits of yours do you see in each of your sons?
I see a lot of myself in Jacob.
He is creative, easily distracted and refuses to do things just because “that’s how it’s done”.
He loves musicals, A CHRISTMAS CAROL and HARRY POTTER as much as I do.
Jacob is lovable, empathetic and so introspective. He sees three sides to every story and is always ready to make everyone feel included.
Jacob (like me) acts like he is just grateful to be invited to the party.
He also says things without thinking and is quick to apologize, hug and accept someone.
He is a TALKER and as my mom always says, “it’s not like he doesn’t come by it naturally”.
Then there is Gio.
Ah. My BIG THINKER and child that offers a cheek to kiss instead of a full mouth even now.
But you know what I see in Gio that reminds me of myself ?
He is thoughtful and quick to make a concession.
He is a peacemaker along with being the kid at school that follows the rules just for the sake of doing it. He doesn’t want fighting or angst, so he does his best to quiet it (while Jacob just wants things HIS WAY or not at all.)
He might not like it, but he acts like the “oldest sibling” (like I am) , taking on the responsibilities of actions for both of them.
6. Which personality traits of your husband’s do you see in each of your sons?
Well first and foremost, if they could clone John, you’d get Gio.
So beyond personality, I look at Gio and I’ve see John since his picture in the NICU.
But beyond that, Gio has inherited John’s love of sports, stats and information.
He can name whole teams of players by the numbers on their jerseys, he knows the rules of HOCKEY (I still don’t know them and honestly, by now, I should, considering the amount of ex boyfriends that played actually played hockey along with John’s obsession with the game) and he continues to impress me with his knowledge of Football stats that compare to the likes of Terry Bradshaw or Mike Francesa.
He is also great with technology (John works in IT)
Gio is shy, just like John and I call him my oven…Jacob is a microwave like I am, but Gio (and John) need a little time to “preheat” before they get warm. Once they are, they are talkative and friendly, open and engaging, but it takes a little while.
I thought a lot about how Jacob is like his daddy. I don’t see a lot of John in Jacob, not as much as say my brother, sister or daddy.
He is quick to reach for my hand and quick to ease a hurt feeling. He is thoughtful too and has a deep faith like his daddy, both of them love our church choir.
He does special things for me or remembers things that I would never expect and surprises me with a picture or present. He pays attention and never fails to make me feel like I’m important. (these are things that I love about both John and Jacob.)
7. What is a favorite memory of high school?
Hmm. I think it was when I was named “Class Flirt”, “Most Optimistic” and “Most Spirited” in our Senior year. I think I’d always been liked well enough but I was a bit of an outsider in our class of 43 people. I think it’s because I befriended everyone. There was room in my life for the cool kids, the nerdy kids, the poor kids and the popular kids. I dated and kissed as many people as I wanted to, I had no “type” beyond just wanting people in my life. Even then I could see the good in every person and giving anyone the benefit of the doubt.
I spent a lot of my HS career wondering what people thought of me. (I guess we all do) but when I was named these three things (3!!) I realized that people SAW me. To this day, I love knowing that I am seen as optimistic, flirty and spirited. Those are three adjectives I identify with and it was a sweet moment to have them bestowed on me and understand that people “knew” me.
8. If you were going to make me a mix tape (yes, I just aged myself with that) of songs to make me happy, what would the top 6 songs be and why?
Do you know that this is the question that has given me the most sleepless nights and made my face twist up in thought?
First, I love mix-tapes! (and dating yourself, DUDE I turned 44 yesterday. WORD!)
Second music is so personal and one person’s HAPPY tune is another person’s “oh dear GOD do I need to listen to this?”
But in the end I decided to send you music that I love that I am hoping will lift your spirit for no other reason than you know it came from my heart straight to yours.
Dressed Up In Love by Jennifer Hudson (because what girl doesn’t need her girlfriends, people who make her feel “warm in the Winter, cool in the summer and all dressed up in LOVE?”
Let it Go by Idina Menzel from Frozen, (because it’s empowering and speaks to dispelling all the doubts we have about ourselves. “The cold never bothered me anyway…” )
HAPPY by Pharrell (because we should all CLAP ALONG and smile. HAPPY is here!)
You’ve Got a Friend (Carole King or James Taylor or BOTH! I want you to always remember you’ve got a friend in me)
Don’t Stop Believing by Journey (because you started it with your about page…but it’s such great advice. I believe in you and the incredible person you are. Always.)
I Like to Move It/I’ve Got the Power By Snap: I couldn’t choose, but I wanted to DANCE with you. I figured let’s go 90′s for that…;)
9. How did you meet your husband?
I met John at work. He was married when he came to work here but there was something about him that attracted me from the start. We were friends first, colleagues, and then a year after he started he sat down with me at lunch and told me he was getting a divorce. John took an enormous leap of faith with me and left his marriage so we could have ours.
Our story is hard to tell because it starts in a way that puts many people off, but sometimes it’s the ending of one thing that makes way for the beginning of another.
I feel like we are perfect proof of that.
10. Lastly, what is your favorite thing about yourself?
My empathy and optimism.
I will always give you the benefit of the doubt, I will always be in your corner, I will try to see every side of your story.
Plus I forgive, with my whole heart.
Sometimes that means that I’m taken for granted or ignored or even hurt , but I never regret it.
Thanks so much for playing #AskAwayFriday with me Katie. Loved having you hang in the corner today.
If you’d like to play #AskAwayFriday with me, just shoot me an email. I love spending my Fridays like this.